I have come to have similar feelings regarding body image and need to incorporate that in my moving forward. Now, here me loudly: I am in no way saying that having a poor or ill conceived body image isjustlike losing a loved one. Not even a little bit. But the feeling of never being "there" is the same.
I'm beginning to understand that if I lose all the weight I want, I still don't think I'll feel absolutely fabulous about how I look. It's so ingrained in who I am that how I look is wrong. Those feelings won't go away over night, even if the weight did and it's silly to think weight loss would be the answer to all my ills.
Even now, some days I am confident and strong and feel pretty great about myself because I'm pretty great. And the very next day (or hell, even sometime a few hours later) something will switch and I'll just want to go to bed. It could be that I saw more than my face in a mirror (something I go through great lengths to avoid), the poor fit of a piece of clothing, just FEELING gross. And that strength and confidence just goes away. I simply don't have it anymore. While I strive for those feelings to become less and less, it is foolish and irresponsible to assume they will go away forever and not prepare for how to cope when they come up.
Last weekend, I was lamenting to some friends about clothing and texted one "I just want to cancel my plans and not go". And her response was spot on: Well, you can't just go to bed and not exist. Clothes are gross and stupid, bodies aren't. And she's so right.
With this one body I have been blessed with I do a lot of things. I laugh. I live. I enjoy the simple things. I friend. I aunt. I help heal. This body worships its creator and savior. It isn't stupid and gross. I AM NOT STUPID AND GROSS. Period.
When those feelings occur in the future, I want to remind myself of that saying and focus instead on all the things I am. And that are good and honorable about me. I am flawed, certainly, but I am worthy. This race is worth running.